How a Lie Someone Told Propelled Me to My Purpose

Have you ever been lied on?

Not a very comfortable feeling, is it?

I read a quote by Winston Churchill that said:

“A lie gets halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to put its pants on.”

Here’s my story:

8 years ago, I left everything I knew.

A job I loved, a family who was my rock, and friends who were golden.

I left a little city called Los Angeles, California to move to Montgomery, Alabama.

-Pause (I’ll let you soak that in for a minute)-

I was getting married to my amazing husband.

The transition had it’s fair share of challenges.

Not only was I getting married and moving out of the state, but I became a Pastor’s Wife to an incredible congregation (I love you New Life!) and was blessed with 6 bonus children. I essentially moved into what many would call a “glass house” as a First Lady.

Many people would ask me how the transition was. Some would ask because they genuinely cared, others would ask because they were just nosey and wanted something to talk about.

Everyone wasn’t able to handle the truth.

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Truth is, it’s hard changing your life.

And in the midst of changing your life, not everyone is going to be for you. Not everyone is going to celebrate you. Some may smile in your face, say they have your back, and then disappoint you.

I was blessed with great support.

You know why?

Because I chose to show myself friendly and genuinely care about others. The Bible says that “he who has a friend must show himself friendly.” You don’t need everyone on your team, you just need the right people on your team.

About that Lie…

The lie wasn’t something someone else said.

It was what I told myself.

When you are in the midst of change and adjustment, if you’re not careful, you’ll listen to the voice of resistance that whispers, and then shouts: You can’t do this. You don’t really have what it takes!

That is a lie.

You have to believe you can succeed, and you will.

But you have to believe first. Your life becomes whatever meaning you give it.

Once you change your thinking, you can change your life.

You see, I was in business & a budding entrepreneur when I moved.

Being a First Lady was a great calling and one that I fully embraced. I wanted to enhance the honor of being a First Lady in an even bigger way by serving others in my business.

It wasn’t just about putting on a pretty hat and sitting on the front row every Sunday for me. I had to work. I wanted to work. To work was to be fully alive glorifying God with the gifts He blessed me with.

To do something that was meaningful and purposeful was the foundation I was raised on.

I had to find a way to pour into others and speak life into them. I had to find a way to help move people to action to become the change they were seeking. I wanted to serve people to truly take the Word of God they heard preached every Sunday and take action on their God-sized goals.

In that first year of moving to Alabama, the enemy tried so hard to make me feel like the same God who was with me in Los Angeles wasn’t with me in Montgomery.

That is another lie.

The Bible says, “Behold, I am with you always.” (Matthew 28:20)

Yes, there were days when I felt alone and times when I didn’t know what to do next.

Have you ever seen a Lion, the King of the Jungle, caged? Upon first getting captured, he roars angrily and desperately fights to break free. But before long, if he stops fighting, he’ll resign to his fate of being locked in. But the lion who keeps fighting will win.

You don’t have to stay locked in. Summon the great resolve that is inside of you and decide today that you will win.

I flipped those lies on their head and it only helped propel me forward to find my purpose and now I love what I get to do everyday. I’m so grateful for everything that has led up to this point.

I’m all about helping you live out your greatest potential and purpose. I want to empower you to use your gifts and talents to change the world.

Let me encourage you:

God has never left you.

You may be in the middle of a transition yourself.

Don’t let the lies others tell, or even the lie you may tell yourself stop you from pursuing your God-given purpose.

God will never leave you. You are not alone. Something good is going to come out of your transition if you can just hang on.

  • Focus on the good. We can all find meaning, even in our pain.
  • Shift your focus. Learn to master the challenges even in your suffering.
  • Take control. Choose consciously and wisely. Find the deepest meaning in everything.
  • And if you need to talk, I’m here. Schedule a powerful coaching conversation that will change your life. Email

Question: How are you going to use the negative things that happened in your life and turn them around for good?






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  • Powerful Jevonnah and so encouraging. I agree – I believe the lies that seem to trip me up the most are the ones I tell myself.

  • Nichole Thompson

    Beautifully written and heartfelt!

  • PastorMelJHOW

    That’s brilliant & transformational teaching Lady J! I often remind JHOW that the worst lie of all is the ones we tell ourselves! I’m resharing! Have a TREMENDOUS week!

  • Julie Carr

    Wow! Timely word, Jevonnah! That you for being so transparent. I have seen in my own life that once I am able to come to terms in my own head and line it up with the Word of God I am armed to move forward with courage. When I face those lies I repeat scripture, out loud. Amazing encouragement!

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    You are absolutely right, Ann. We have to watch what we allow to take “residence” in our minds.

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    Thank you, Nichole!

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    Thank you so much, Pastor! I pray it will help others.

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    Thank you, Julie! I’m so excited about what God is doing in your life!

  • Amber Marshall

    What an awesome article! Life is truly what you make it. I know the Abraham transition of leaving everything all too well. The process is much easier when you partner with God. Thank you for Sharing!

  • Sharmane Miller

    Seeing the good in every lie, loss or let-down is not easy, but it’s certainly necessary for continued progress. None of it may seem good, but what a blessing that they “work together” for good! I am presently going through a huge transition and have to constantly remind myself, like Paul, that my competence is not of myself, but it is from God. Thanks Jevonnah for the wonderful reminder to not only focus on the good, but to shift gears and take control!

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    You’re absolutely right, Amber. Love that, “the process is much easier when you partner with God.”

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    Sharmane, you are right on point. Thanks for sharing! When we place our competence and confidence in God, the transition can be used for His glory. “Where God guides, God provides. Where God directs, God protects.” – Bishop C.E. Blake

  • Wow, Jevonnah…. Wow wow wow. Your post really hit home with me. It is so true what you said about the lies we tell ourselves. What an inspiring and motivational message. Thank you for sharing your heart. I have been telling myself “I can do it”, and focus on what I can do. In the past I was pretty hard on myself, and it can be a very bad habit. I’m shooting to be as kind to myself as I am to others. This is a start!

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    Marcy, I’m so glad it was motivating and inspiring for you. You have a story that so many people are going to be blessed by. Keep shining!

  • Eld. Earl P. Scott

    There are many things that can effect your personal transition from one place to another. I’ve gone through many transitions in my life so far including the military, the Vietnam War, and at least four from state to state moves. But the one that stands out the most is when I left Buffalo, N.Y. and moved to Dallas, Texas. I went there to visit my second oldest daughter and her first born child who was about 4yrs old, she is now 30 and has two children of her own. The first week I was there I was shot in the face by a man who was obviously was not playing with a Full Deck. The bullet entered my left cheek and exited about a 1/4 of an inch to the left of my spine and I still have the physical scars but not the psychiatric ones. It would take too long to give you the details now but the end result was that with the help of the Lord I survied and continued to live there in Dallas for the next seven years without any fear of being harmed. Since then I’ve moved out of different states twice and my strength has been in the Lord. I say that to say “Trust God, not so much people no matter if you move up, down, or side to side, He really does have your back”.

  • Thanks for the Valentine’s hug! Also, truer words could not have been shared. The word TRANSITION is stamped on my T-shirt! You counsel of what to believe and not to believe is so RIGHT ON…..the Resistance has come and attempted to whisper in my ear….I have turned my “hearing aid” off and I choosing to believe the truth of PROV 3:5-6 as if my life depends on it, as it does. TRUST! Thanks….BRuce

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    Bruce, you’re right on it. Trust, Truth and Transition…something we all must face eventually. Thanks for sharing!

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    Hi Earl! Wow, what a testimony you are. Thank you for sharing this. I especially love what you said…”Trust God, not so much people no matter if you move up, down, or side to side. He really does have your back.”

  • Thanks for bringing me back around and giving me the ammunition I need to uproot the lies in my life!

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    You’re so welcome, Steve! Blessings to you!

  • Kylle McKinney

    Awesome article!! You are such an inspiration and an example!! Keep being you!!!

  • What a terrific twist to the story. The Bible says we are responsible for every idle (unemployed and useless) word we speak, and to take every thought captive to bring it into obedience to Christ. Your post shows how to practically do those things.

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    Thank you, Donna! You’re so right. We have to watch what we say even to ourselves.

  • Cynthia

    Oh my! As I read this post the lies starting forming in my head! I could hear myself thinking, well yes she can say that, she’s a pastor’s wife and she has a successful business and she has a lot going for her. And wow! I had to stop and cancel such negative self talk. I’m a coach on hiatus. Rethinking my business, my walk with God, my life as a wife and mother and my career. Thank you Jevonnah. Our self talk is so crucial. Thank you so much for sharing this. And thank you for reminding me some of the biggest lies are the ones we tell our selves.

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    Cynthia, you’re absolutely right – our self talk is crucial. I’m so glad this post encouraged you. Excited about your future career & coaching business. If I can help you move forward, reach out.

  • Atiya Jenkins

    Wow, awesome article I’m in a transition my self right now, and my God it is uncomfortable. I was in prayer consulting God about this, because it is an unfamiliar place that Im in. He reminded me of Joshua in Joshua chapter 1 and how I’m sure Joshua was nervous about moving forward knowing that Moses wasn’t going to be with him anymore and I’m sure the test that was in front of him seemed to be hard. But I’m reminded how God told Joshua he will be with him and everywhere the soles of his feet would go He would give to Joshua. I just believe that the Lord wants me to trust him like never before and all of the Endeavors that he wants to take me yo step into even if I don’t understand the process that I got to go through to get there, but thank you so much for your encouraging words about the lies that we tell ourselves which a lot of times Come From Fear but I think God that he said he will be with me in this season as he did Joshua, as well as with all who read this post!!!

  • Jevonnah Ellison

    Atiya, I’m so glad the post encouraged you! I will be praying for you as you go through this process. I know God is going to be with you every step of the way. No matter where you are, you are never alone.